Maybe you find yourself acting like you’re not married because life is super crazy. You’re simply passing ships in the night.

Are you okay with that?

Seriously! Most of us are trying to keep everyone else moving forward, but we forget about our marriage.

The one we love, we leave.

How does this make sense?

It doesn’t. And that’s why I want you to think about what you are filling your marriage with.

• Are you holding your spouse to the letter of your vows with no room for failure?
• Are your expectations out of line for the season of life you’re in as a family?
• Are you frustrated more than you are content?
• Do you prefer to pick a fight versus having calm conversations?
• Are you too busy to spend a moment together?

You can’t grow as a couple if what you’re doing is tearing you apart.

So if you want to grow together, it begins by quitting.

The K.I.S.S. ~ It begins by quitting!

If your spouse means something to you more than a rug on the floor, then you need to take an honest look at what you are dishing out in your marriage.

1. What attitude do you contribute that encourages or discourages your spouse?
2. What emotion do you evoke most from your spouse?
3. What action do you over-emphasize for your benefit?

You can truly be in love forever, but you have to be willing to try something new and quit what doesn’t work.

CHALLENGE: Where do you need to start? Attitude? Emotion? Action?

Don’t be overwhelmed by all of this at once. Take it a little bit at a time. If you can, talk about it with your spouse. But you can’t talk about it if you are defending your position. You gotta come on neutral terms; benefits for all.

PRAYER: May your heart grow fonder with every breath you take. When you get entangled with feelings and emotions that overwhelm the heart, take a step back. May your willingness to connect deeper be the spark that keeps the flame burning.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“