Finding yourself struggling in marriage is not something we think about before we say I do. Even with pre-marriage counseling, most are not told that you will have struggles and troubles.

And because it’s between you and the one you love most, it’s hard to break away from what you are hiding from.

If I don’t face it, maybe it won’t happen or it’s not happening.

The problem with that approach is you make away for the growth of the bad and the ugly.

Unless you become proactive and are willing to do what hasn’t been done, then you stay right where you are.

No marriage can survive years of turmoil unless you are willing to put in the work. Time is of the essence.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Put in the W.O.R.K.!

1. Wing-it no more. It’s time to take an honest look at where your marriage stands. You cannot change something you are not willing to see. Pull back the covers on what isn’t working in your marriage so you can put in the W.O.R.K.! This is where honesty shines both in your actions and in your heart.
2. Organize your thoughts. Here you need to make time to understand you and where you stand. What matters to you in your situation and in your marriage. Really sit down and ponder what matters. How do you see things? By putting into words your position, then you better understand who you are showing up to be.
3. Read to lead. Be alert to what matters to your spouse. Make time for your spouse. Pay attention. Don’t be the one in the relationship that sits back thinking everything is ok.
4. Kill with kindness. Take A.I.M. with a heart full of kindness. Let go of what is hurting and forgive. If you are not willing to stop keeping score, then you’re gonna be stuck with what you have.

Don’t settle for where you are. Create your now! Marriage wasn’t designed to be easy. Relationships require love, grace, and forgiveness. So put in the W.O.R.K.!

Build that foundation by what you do and create a marriage that can withstand any storm that comes your way.

Make today count.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“